It is not a bad idea to give it if you would like to get it.

            I remember a time when a Code of Conduct at public meetings didn't exist in local municipal and school board manuals.

            It was a public meeting and courtesy and respect for each other was usually on display.  It was a time when most people knew each other and their neighbors.  It was a time when conversations could be had without fear of differing opinions leading to embarrassing outbursts.

            Don't know your neighbor or your local, elected official?  Never be afraid to stick out your hand and introduce yourself.  Do that and you now have a name to go with a face.  Conversations usually come quite a bit easier after that.

            New to the area?  See the above.  It can be taken as an "I'm happy to be here" moment.  Long-time resident? See the above.  That can be taken as a "Welcome to the Community" moment.  

            Over the years, I wonder how many local issues were discussed and problems solved among citizens and local officials by a simple conversation while sitting on the front porch or at the kitchen table and respecting each other's point of view.  Those were peaceful places to hold a conversation and share each other's point of view.

            There are times when local residents have concerns that need official help.  There are times when local officials have concerns about how, or whether they can, supply a solution.  Knowing the difference is key and explaining your position is vital to that persons concern and understanding.

            Oh, there was the occasional disagreement at a public meeting but it seldom led to shouting matches or gave way to outright hatred.

            That seems to be where some folks, on both sides, are at today.  That's not good for any municipality, school district, or for anyone.

            Remember that your conduct is setting an example for others – no matter which side of the meeting room you're on.  So, check your bad attitude at the door before you enter.

            To the public, sometimes problems can't be solved the way you think they can.  Seek out alternative solutions.  Doing so usually includes putting several heads together to think it out.

            To local officials, sometimes your solution isn't always the only, or correct, way to go.  Don't be afraid, or too lazy, to look for alternatives.  Sometimes all you have to do is turn the page on the rules book and there it is.

            Remember that you do get more flies with honey than with salt.

            Respect – give some, get some.